SYNCERELY SYLAS

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Could Be Worse.

Dear Sylas,

Like most people a lot of bad stuff has been going on for me and my family. Most of it has to do with the economy and just how that is effecting everything. The other day I was talking to a friend about these issues and he said “it could be worse” I felt infuriated but then got to thinking about it, and I guess it could be worse, but do you really think that it could be?

Sincerely,
Could Be Worse
Politically Confused.

Dear Sylas,

Lately I have been hearing a lot at my church about politics and who to vote for and how to vote on certain propositions. I feel like in some ways they are saying that if you don’t vote their way then you are less of a Christian, or maybe not even a Christian at all. I was just wondering what you thought of how people should vote? And what do you think about your pastor telling you how to vote?

Sincerely,
Politically Confused
Struggling to Forgive.

Dear Sylas,

I am really having a problem with one of my best friends in the whole world. She and I have been friends for most of our lives and have spent countless hours together, but a couple weeks ago she did something that really betrayed my trust. She has asked for forgiveness, but I just don’t know if it is possible for me to forgive her. I really don’t want our friendship to die over this but every time I see her all I can think about is what she did. How do I get over this?

Sincerely,
Struggling to Forgive
Worried.

Dear Sylas,

Lately I cant seem to stop my mind from worrying all the time. It seems that our country is in a bad place and everywhere you turn you see people getting laid off, gas going out of control, the war and so on. I feel like all people talk about anymore is the economy and how bad it all is. I feel like my mind is consumed by all the worry around me. Any advise on how to not worry?

Sincerely, Worried
SYNCERELY SYLAS #14
March 16, 2008

Unequally Yoked?

Dear Sylas,

I am a new Christian and I have been attending my churches youth group for about 3 months. The other night the speaker talked a lot about being “unequally yoked” I didn’t understand all of it but I understood that basically as a Christian we should not be married to non-Christians. I have had a boyfriend for a little over 7 months and he is not a Christian I wanted to know if I have to break up with him to be a Christian?

Sincerely, Confused
SYNCERELY SYLAS #13
January 28, 2008
Can't Keep My Mouth Shut.

Dear Sylas,

I have really been struggling with gossip lately a lot in my life. I feel like I talk all the time and even about people who I really care about. Sometimes when I leave a place where I have been hanging out I feel sick knowing all the stuff I just spilled about people in my life and people I claim to be friends with. I really don’t know why I do this and I know that it is going to hurt people I care about. Do you have any advise on how I can stop this? I hate that I do it and I am not sure why I continue. Thanks

Sincerely, Cant keep my mouth shut
SYNCERELY SYLAS #12
January 1, 2008
Christians and Christmas.

Dear Sylas,

I am not a Christian and I had a couple of questions for you. My best friend says that she is a Christian and her family goes to church and all that stuff… but I noticed over Christmas Break that all her and her mom did was complain about what they weren’t getting and all this stuff they wanted. Isn’t Christmas supposed to be about Jesus’ birth? And if so how come it doesn’t seem to be the focus for my friend and her family? Like I said I am not a Christian and maybe I am confused. It would just seem to me that if it was the most important day in my faith that I would take a it a little more seriously.

Sincerely, Curious
Bad Things to Good People.

Dear Sylas,

Recently I had a friend who was killed in a car accident. She was only 15. The driver who hit her and her mom was drunk and walked away without any serious injuries. Ever since this happened I have been feeling really angry at God. I don’t understand why He would let something like this happen. It seems really unfair that my friend who was a Christian and a good person would die and then someone driving drunk gets away with out anything. Why does God let stuff like this happen?

Sincerely, Confused
SYNCERELY SYLAS #10
August 13, 2007
Sin Over and Over.

Dear Sylas,

I feel like lately I can’t do anything right. I wonder how God can love me when I continue to make the wrong choices. I try really hard to be a good Christian but it is so hard.

When I mess up I just feel like giving up. I know that people say God forgives us but how can that be true? I mean I know He forgives us but I think He hates me for asking over and over to forgive me for the same thing. Any thoughts?

Sincerely, Down and Out
SYNCERELY SYLAS #9
July 2, 2007
The Original Sin.

Dear Sylas,

Lately I have been hearing all this stuff about “the original sin” and I am not sure what it is. I feel like I should know. I was raised in the church and have heard it a a lot, but now I feel dumb asking. So what is it?

Sincerely, Confused
SYNCERELY SYLAS #8
June 18, 2007
My Mom Drinks.

Dear Sylas

My mom drinks quite a bit. She has probably between 4-6 drinks a night and I am concerned that she may be an alcoholic. She says she does it just to unwind from her day. Do you think she is living in sin? How much can a person drink before it becomes a sin?

Sincerely, How much is to much
SYNCERELY SYLAS #7
June 11, 2007
Desperate to Believe.

Dear Sylas,

Lately I have really been questioning my faith. I have been a Christian for about 3 years and all of a sudden I am starting to doubt Jesus and who He said he was. I really want to believe but I am not sure anymore. Any suggestions?

Sincerely, Desperate to Believe
SYNCERELY SYLAS #6
June 6, 2007

Why Do Teens Try to Kill Themselves?

In light of a recent event in our lives we have decided to not post one of our normal “Syncerely Sylas’” but instead we felt that it was important to post this relevant information about teens and suicide.
SYNCERELY SYLAS #5
May 27, 2007

Tattoo Desperate.

Dear Sylas,

I REALLY want to get a tattoo but my parents are freaking out about it. I just turned 18 but I still live at home. They continue to say that the Bible says not to get tattoo’s. Is this true?

Sincerely, 18 and desperate for a tattoo.
SYNCERELY SYLAS #4
April 22, 2007

I'm Pregnant.

Dear Sylas,

I got pregnant and I hate the father but he thinks we should get married to make things “right.” I am not sure what to do? I want to do what God wants me to do, but I know if I marry him I will be unhappy and so will he.

Sincerely, What to do
SYNCERELY SYLAS #3
April 9, 2007

Smoking in L.A.

Dear Sylas,

I recently moved to LA from Tennessee. With a huge tobacco industry centered in the South, smoking is completely acceptable everywhere including church settings. I have seen countless elders and others from my church smoking in the church parking lot. Since it was so readily available I naturally started smoking myself. Since I have moved to LA I am getting the vibe at my new church that smoking is some sort of sin. Am I missing something here? I see nothing about smoking in the scripture. Please help

Sincerely, Fuming in LA
SYNCERELY SYLAS #2
Aril 2, 2007

Here's the Deal.

Heres the deal…

A few years back my parents decided to get a divorce. Most kids my age were very young when their rents decide to do this but I had to deal with the court business, the arguments, and the hatred through my junior and senior years in high school. That made life tough enough.

SYNCERELY SYLAS #1
March 23, 2007

Bulimia Eating Disorder.

Dear Sylas,

I am 16 years old and 5’8’’ and I weigh 98lbs and I think I am very fat. I Look in the mirror and hate myself for how fat I am. I have struggled with throwing up (bulimia) for about 2 years now. Oh and did I mention I am a boy? How messed up is that? What should I do? I know my parents have suspicions that I am doing it but they have not talked to me about it. What should I do?

Sincerely, Dying to be Thin

 

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